Cancer of unknown origin, devastated

Hi. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad, I found out on Tuesday that my dad has stomach cancer stage 4 which has spread To his lungs: he has had 2 litres of fluid drained two weeks ago and the build up again has happened so quickly he is having a permanent drain on Tuesday. My mum is 84 my dad is 75…I’m devastated, he has been given 12 months. I don’t understand why this is happening I am so broken also. I don’t know how mum willl cope or my daughter who is 12….he wants a family meeting this weekend to discuss his funeral. Sending much love x

Thank you for your message, so sorry to hear you are going through something similar. My once physically strong dad is now thin and frail and shivering all the time I just can’t cope. He has a endoscopy on Saturday when a biopsy will be taken to determine some sort of confirmation of what he is going through. It is just ruining me. I had a good morning today however by 4pm it was horrendous again, when I cry he cries so I find myself holding in my emotions even though he tells me not to. Have you got any other support? We have been referred to a hospice who can give us some sort of support. I just cannot imagine a life without him and don’t want him being in pain xx