last birthday

Thank you so glad I found this forum and to see others in a similar situation as myself ,he's still managing the finances etc as it's mobility is the issue,he makes me feel as if all I think of is myself and I'm sure he thinks I want him gone but reality is he's in denial about how serious his illness is and we need to think ahead I feel like he's not bothered about me and the future 

Thanks LeeBee, I’m so sorry to hear your husband is in more pain now. That’s very tough to see and deal with. I think you’re right about encouraging him to eat and drink. My chap has been a bit like that with food. It will have it if I make something. 
Very nice to share with someone going through sane thing, but not nice we are going through this.

The whole thing is just very sad 

I think all cancer sufferers go through a number of stages....anger, disbelief,blame and finally acceptance.

Sounds like he's still in denial so it may be an idea to get a McMillan nurse to have a talk to him about where he's up to and you can say how you're feeling too.

Sometimes it's easier coming from a professional as they have the answers and information he'll need

Thinking of you both x

hi leebee. thank you so much for your reply.it so helps to know we re not alone going through these terrible times..

I saw your more on finances...we were lucky enough to hear about a weekly payment from the government for people with short life expectancy.we spoke to a Macmillan nurse and got help filling it in.its a bit of a process but so worth it...we used some of the money to buy a mattress topper for my husband who has pain affecting his sleep and it has made such a difference.its not means tested and can be up to £150 a week.do get in touch with Macmillan to find out more.

wishing you all the best at this difficult time.x

Thank you for the information which I will look into x