I have had my 3rd dose of EC today. Trying to rest as much as I can. My partner then asks me for money for alcohol. He's is stressed and anxious and he turns to wine as soon as he feels any stress. I said no. I said to him when I need you most you want alcohol.what if something happens and I need you. Any day but today.
How am I supposed to rely on this person? How am I supposed to feel safe? For context he has never hurt me when he is drunk.
Maybe counciling therapy with both of us is needed. But I dont think he would do that.
Just needing to vent my feelings. Anyone here understand and been through this before?
Hi Sophsea
I am sorry to hear of your cancer and hope that your chemo is going as well as it can.
I had chemo in 2022 and rest is important. The support I had from those around me made all the difference.
It sounds as if your partner is not coping well and at a time when you need to feel you can rely on him. Have you got anyone else around you that can offer support?
Although you mention that he has never hurt you when drunk, you absolutely need to feel safe. Both physically and emotionally safe. Are you able to talk to your nurse about how you are feeling? I know my own CNS was really good.
Going through cancer treatment can put a huge strain on both the person undergoing treatment and also those around them. It sounds like you are both needing some support.
Please consider giving the Support Line a call tomorrow and talk things through with one of our advisors. There will be someone there from 8am-8pm.
I know through my own chemo that there were days where I did feel very unwell and remember that if this happens with you then you can call the hospital 24 hour line and they can help you.
Lastly if at any point you do not feel safe then do not be afraid to ask for help. I will pop a link here for you.
Homepage - National Domestic Abuse Helpline
0808 2000 247 24 hours a day.
If you ever feel in immediate danger then call 999.
We are here when you need us.
Jane
