Nerves before surgery

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To Lady Tinkerbell - I just wanted to try to give you some reassurance or tactic for coping with nerves in the run up to your forthcoming mastectomy operation.  I had a mastectomy a week ago.  I think I was more nervous about the operation than having my breast removed.  Having met the surgeon and the lovely breast care nurses, I reminded myself that I would be in good hands and that I should focus on giving myself over to them.  They know what they are doing and have done it many times before.  The anaesthetist was also very caring and chatty and knocked me out before I knew it!  You'll be well looked after when you wake up.  If you're squeamish about needles, look away and count to 10!  I wish you all the luck in the world.

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  • Thank you so much. That’s so kind. The hospital have agreed to put me to sleep with gas then stab me with whatever needles whilst I’m already out! 

    So that’s one thing out of way. My dr has put me in medication too to keep me calm as I’m a bit neurotic at the moment. 

    How long was your recovery would you say? 

    Tinker bell xx
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    FormerMember in reply to lady_tinkerbell

    Dear Lady Tinkerbell,

    That is lovely that the hospital have agreed to put out to sleep with gas first.  I would say try not to fret too much because you will be so well looked after.  Just stay relaxed when you come round from surgery.  Honestly, it's nothing at all to be frightened of and there won't be any pain. Take your time waking up and have a cup of tea when you're ready.  If you need anything, just ask the nurse. It's all very gentle.  Regarding recovery, I was full of energy for the first couple of days after the operation but then developed swelling across my chest (seroma) which was uncomfortable but it didn't stop me from moving around. It can be contained with Ibuprofen or Paracetamol.  Seroma is common apparently but it may be different for different people.  I've had quite a lot of daytime naps in the six days since my operation. I'm just suddenly aware I need to stop.  I think I read that you are married with two young children?  If they can fit themselves around your recovery period, that will enable you to take your time to recuperate.  I would say don't try to carry on as usual. Regarding recovery time, I've been given a sick note for four weeks.  You'll be given plenty of advice from the lovely breast care nurses and you can phone them if you have any questions.  By the way, they suggested to me a very nice bra from Sainsbury's which is cropped-topped and padded.  I've bought several. They are comfortable and a very flattering shape, in white, black and dusky pink. Best to pull them up over your body rather than over your head.  

  • Thank you for the advice- I’m just a bit overwhelmed at the moment. I’m signing consent forms today so think il talk to the nurse too

    Tinker bell xx
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    FormerMember in reply to lady_tinkerbell

    Morning Lady Tinkerbell.  Looking back at previous comments from people who have gone through breast surgery: Pisqueek reassured you that it won't be as bad as you are expecting and I just want to second that.  Your husband may be able to sit with you while you're waiting for the op.  Also, you won't be alone in any case; apart from the nurses, there will be other women in the ward in the same situation.  Wishing you the very best for a smooth operation and a speedy recovery.  Let us know how you get on.