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Hi Hayley

I cannot actually answer your question, other than that when a tumour is found, at some stages there can be involvement of lymph nodes, both nearby and distant, but the specialists take all of that into account when sorting out treatment. Having a few nodes does not always make that much of a difference.

What I can say with a large degree of confidence, is firstly the worst period for most people is after first diagnosis and before there are any real answers or even a full diagnosis, as this can take time to get the information together to make up the full picture.  This period is a living hell, I admit - I lost 3 Kilos in a couple of weeks, it affects us all differently though.

What I can say, this far into my journey is try to stay calm and have patience - as much as the NHS gets slated, when it comes to cancer they do work very fast, and whilst its hard, it does take time to put the story together.

I am sure though, someone more experienced will answer your post properly - forum is bursting at the seams with lovely, helpful people.

Steve

Just popping in with fresh coffee and croissants, sounds like a big hug needed all round, hope Christine you are feeling a little better today, and the new day with some sunshine will help, ease your loneliness.

MissVST so sorry you find yourself in this situation and you will find shoulders to cry on here and a hug to comfort you, it is very hard watching the person you love  going through so much and you must feel very sad, others on here have trod a similar path and will understand your heartbreak.

Gillian1 welcome to our friendly little group, pull up a chair and have some freshly brewed coffee, or tea, how are you today?

Hayley, welcome this is the hardest time for others to watch when investigations are going on, hold tight, till all the tests are done and then a plan will be made for the best treatment for your dad, try not to jump ahead and be careful what sites you use, as a lot on the web is out dated, stick with the well known sites like this or cancer research, give your dad a hug and take 1 day at a time.

Big day today, personally will be glad when the decision is made and we can hopefully settle for the next 5 years and let whoever gets in to run the country do their best.

Sending hugs and support to everyone today,xxxx

Morning all. I am off to the hospital for a pre op assessment. I am having a second mastectomt and lymph node clearance next week. Saw the oncologist yesterday and he says that I need a third round of chemo and herceptin afyer the op. Off we go again

Sister Snail, I slept like a log the following night, thank you.....I suppose it's because our lass is far away, to be honest, that I'm not sleeping that well....

dear Christine, sending you huge hugs, hope you are feeling a bit less alone, there are lots on site who think a lot of you.

hugs to all xxx

Hayley, welcome to 24/7.... I think investigations, once you know a diagnosis of cancer, are awful, the wait is dreadful, but necessary as they need to know exactly the type of cancer to choose the right drugs to fight it. 

Welcome to everyone else, dear Polarbear, thinking of you today 

hugs xxx

Gillian1 Thinking of you and hope all goes well today xx

Thanks Moomy, hope your "whirlwind" has a brilliant time and comes home safe and sound, you never stop worrying about them and am sure you will sleep better when you know she is back in the country xxx

Thanks for all your kind words and support and I wish all the best for you and whatever issues you are currently facing xx

Wow a busy room the last couple of days! Have brought in a couple more bean bags so we can all be comfy. Welcome Hayley and Gillian. I second what everyone says about waiting for diagnosis and treatment it was the hardest part of my journey so far. I have been much more settled emotionally since treatment began, hope things move quickly for you dad Hayley.

Christine, how are your Birmingham plans going? Such a lovely city, lots of options for your meet up and staying over, we used to love a Baltimore on Broad Street!

Moomy when's your baby home? Hope you are sleeping a little better.

Hope everyone is managing to keep smiling despite the rubbish weather. I had a lovely day with friends yesterday, our Gorge walk was scuppered but had a lovely day of coffee, lunch and shopping, I'll admit, I did buy a new top!

Planning to make some scones this afternoon so will pop in with some straight from the oven, I have put clotted cream and jam in the fridge ready.

have a good day all

Love Jakki xxxx

Mm, scones, Jakki! Yummy! Glad your walk was good, I got blown into town to do some essentials, decided to jump on the bus back as the weather was looking worse! Poor garden, it has suffered....

our  lass flies home Saturday through to Sunday, should get here by midday- Ish. I think you never stop worrying, to be honest, I once had a patient in her 90's still worrying about her son in his 70's.....I'm not obsessive about it, but just concerned.....

thinking of you all today, including Gillian and Hayley, hoping you get some answers and progress....

hugs