THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)

FormerMember over 16 years ago

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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.

We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.

So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.

Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi Nic

We stayed in Opera last time near ( 5 mins walk) from the Galleries Lafayette which is absolutely beautiful but too expensive to buy anything ! There are lots of little restaurants around the area we just tried whatever we fancied at a very reasonable rate and all washed down with rather nice cheap wine! and the crepes! they are TO DIE FOR!

We also went to the Louvre but took photos then left as there was a rather large queue for viewing the Mona Lisa but we will wait when we go later in the month. We did a boat trip down the Seine at night which was awesome especially since it goes round everything lit up the Eiffel tower is truly amazing. Are you bored yet???

Oh my I'm so excited hopefully the weather will be better than last Feb it was freezing cold. Speak to me again if you dare. Guess what my favourite thing in the whole world is!! yes nice hotels and holidays.

Much love

Lesley (the undisputed holiday queen) oh by the way got the hotel in dubai sorted.

xxx

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi all,

Just a quick post from me too, to say I'm feeling a lot better this evening and it's thanks to my special friends on this site who have been here for me the last couple of days - so thank you to those of you who have called, pm'd, text and left messages here. I love you all X

I hope everyone has a great weekend, I will be raising my glass to you all at 8pm.

Lots of love and big hugs for every one of you (((((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))

Sam XX

p.s. Bern - hope you are ok hun as you've been quiet today, Den - you too XX

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Helloooooooo Party People,

I did mail earlier on, but as I am such a tit I cancelled it by mistake as opposed to submitting and was already late for a meeting. Doh!!!

Now super quick message as about to have an early dinner for a change. Oooo er misses

Jac - thinking of you honey and been sending lots of strength and love your way today.

Sam - glad honey you are feeling better. Thie grief thing is a bugger. It hides for a bit and when you feel like you are ok, it comes and bites you on the bum. Just remember when you hit rock bottom the only way back is up and your getting there

Barbie - YIPEEEEEEEEEE you have finished. So please honey, but not as much as you I bet!!! Have a fab weekend and will send you the odd text or two. We are away too, so spelling may be a bit difficult as I'm sure I will be made to drink!!

Mel - you all shopped out yet? What did you buy me?? Nothing....boo hoo!!

Em - ha ha you made me laugh so much about the kid and his mum. I totally agree it is the mums fault. You should have got one of you kids to come out and vomit on her!!! See, that is why the authorities will never let me have children!!!

Nic - whoopee girl holidays galore. Book another weekend away. I dare you!!

Lesley - might give you a run for your money. Where you been in the last 12 months?!!

SAM - honey haven't cauht up with you in ages. Hope you are well and a postcard will be on its way. We brought them all home!!! Have to write them too!!!

Wendy - ooo good luck with the pipster. Now pm when its happening, as we both have a lot of money riding on this!!

Ooops, being shouted at. So have to love you and leave you all. I'm away with work so no access online probably until Weds. So, until then keep it real people!! Keep spreadin the love and don't lose sight of your spirits. They are immense, you are beautiful people and thank you all for being SIMPLY SUPERB. If I have missed anyone, such as Cath, Heidi, Sue, Rach, Kelsey - where are you Kels?, sorry dinner is calling. Love and hugs galore Bern xx

This little guardian angel will look over you all and give you strength when you need it. x

FormerMember over 16 years ago

ok ok forgive me!!! i have read back but forgot who said what (2 bottles later & 1 strong painkiller at lunch time for neck)
so here goes
I got all the sun, lovely day at Balmoral show, i now have a lovely brown circle on my chest & back !!!!!

Yes give me more Paris info (i'm one of those sados who write it all down then when we get there, I HAVE TO GO & CHECK IT OUT)

I have Malaga in July & Paris in August, but now i wish i had of booked Dubai, maybe i could book this for November to break up the winter (Lesley! it was lesley who said Dubai) or maybe my Sam could treat me at the end of the month (31st) for my birthday HINT!! HINT!! HINT!!! i will then become NIC34 insteand of NIC33, or maybe i should go in reverse and become NIC32 lol Us Gemini are VERY VERY VERY special people

Helen - hope your up for our missions, i believe were needed soon!!!

Jac - thinking of you loads, any more dreams??? (I will reply when i'm sober)

And the Jo Malone candle is lovely - Dark amber & ginger Lily is a lovely warm smell round the house, i have just ordered 2 more colognes so will let you know what they are like.

Ok watching Dirty Sexy Money & just discovered "Dutch is not dead" so i'm off

Love & kisses to you all

Nic33

Also raising a glass to Robert Dunlop (Brother of Joey) who was killed last night at the North West Road 200, another great man from Ulster.

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Bern, Keep up the good work and speak soon XXX

Sam, Glad your feeling a little better.XXX

Nic, You sound pissed but hey hun I wish I was but I just don't want to start as I know I will end up even worse than I am now ha ha.XXX

Dawn, Forgot to put you on my post earlier, I know things will be geng really tough for you re-living a year ago you know we are all here for you.XXX

Mel, I hope you are keeping track on how much you've spent perhaps we could compare ??? XXX(p.s I'm not spending as much now!)

All my truly wonderful friends I hope you have a good weekend.XXX

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Yippee, I am first poster of the day!!!

Just a quick one to say I've missed you all this weekend.

Will be back later on today.

Love to all X

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Well flip me, I must have a problem as not being able to post over the weekend has been like having my arm chopped off. How sad is that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Oh deary me!!!!

I recieved this message today and I am so shocked and it defo bought ters to my eyes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hello Emma, I hope I didnt worry you trying to contact you. Im Rebecca Addison, your cousin.

Im so, so sorry about your Dad, I noticed your message a couple of weeks after his sad loss, I hardly ever come on here.

I did get to hear and I was devastated, Ive always had such happy and fond memories of your Dad, the last time we spoke was just after my Dad had died. As soon as I heard, I contacted Sarah and Rachel asking them to tell me more and give me Mums number so I could at least say godbye. I worshipped him as a child, he was the best Uncle ever!

I was only told that he had died, no one said if there was a collection, funeral, anything. I was basically told that I was not part of the family and it had nothing to do with me, they didnt tell me a thing. All I wanted to do was say goodbye and send you my love. I kept the text messages hoping that one day I could show you to prove Id tried.

I left home many years ago and have raised my own family, not wanting my Mums influence around my sons, I wasn't prepared for her to cause pain to those most precious to me.

I hope your Mum is well and that Frankie and Barry are ok too.

Love to you all and once again, Im sorry I didnt get your message in time and even sorrier that my family prevented me from contacting you.

Best Wishes,

Becky x

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XXX

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Dear Em,

It is what it is. Take comfort that your lovely cousin was one more person that thought the world of your Dad.

I was speaking to my husband this weekend, about this huge thing that has happened to me, and how everyone else seems to already have forgotten, already feels that life is now back to normal.

A month has passed already and a number of things make me realise how different my life is now, and how important my Mum is to me still.

Someone text me to ask if it was ok to put flowers on my Mum's grave, I responded with 'That would be lovely". Ten days later and there have been no flowers, only another text explaining that they are busy and haven't done it yet. Why offer? to make themselves feel better, I suppose.

When Mum died, one of the neighbours spoke to Dad and said that they would like to organise a collection for some flowers. He said a donation to the Hospice would be nice, a month later and still no donation.

Neighbours knocked and said they would like to come to the funeral, "You're very welcome" we replied. When we finalised details and knocked to tell them where and when, we were met with "Oh, it will put people off that they have to travel to there, we thought it was going to be local".

By 'there' they mean a 20 minute car ride or an hour by public transport. They did not come.

Basically, people let you down. It's hurtful, but not intentional. In this case the hurt seems to be intentional, but I think this was more about hurting Rebecca than hurting you. How lovely that this girl has continued to make such an effort, to let you know that your wonderful Dad meant something to her too.

If only love could cure everything.

All my love

Melanie X

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Oh Mel,

I totally agree.

I have found that I am very irritable again at the moment although I think this is as much to do with my own health problems as coping with the fact that Dad's gone and forgotten by everybody but me(or that's how it seems).

I was very pleased that Dad's friends whom he had'nt had contact with for many years made the effort to travel the 1.5 hr journey. As for other people I tend not to let there opinions/views and pretense get to me.

You have to try to blank people that don't matter out of your thoughts as you have enough going on in your mind without any extra stress, you can get through this as you are a very strong and wonderful person your Mum knew this and thats why she trusted you with things. XXX