THE ORIGINAL GANG OF MUSHROOM ROPE BUILDERS (i.e Mel & Em's thread cont...)
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This is the start of a new journey for me and my much loved friends from the original Oesophegus thread on general discussions.
We have become a close group and this will be our new home to continue our journey as life has become very hard for many of us and we keep re-living our journeys with lots of newbies which puts us all back a bit.
So my lovely friends Mel, Sam, Helen, Bern, Jac, Nic, Dawn, Sue, Cath, Lesley, Jani and the many other special friends Mel and I have made over the last 16 months this is it we have a new home.
Love to all and extra strength to carry us through our next stage XXX
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hi all
just a quickie to see how you all are
had a mad couple of weeks, hence the non posting. Left my other job on Fri 25th july, started a new one on mon 28th july, had my birthday on 29th july, went on the first new work's team night out on Saturday !!!!!!!!!!! i'm exhausted and my brain is fuddled with new girl stuff!!
anyway hope you are all okish. big love to mel, em, bern, sam, barb, roch, oohh and i notice a double posting from dawn!! i haven't forgotten about you all, just really busy with new job and stuff.
love you all
cath
xx
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Morning all,
Wow, what a busy bunch of beauties you have all been. Wow, Cath get to see you pop back and good luck with the new job....... DAWN, still waiting to find out birthday, so we can sing happy birthday to you - you know you want to hear the cats chorus!!!
Nic - Massive hugs for you my lovely. Hang in there. I have a theory........ I think when grief comes into our lives, there is an invisible amount of cotton wool layers wrapped around us - No, I'm not talking Shrek and layers!! This cotton wool is what protects us and everytime when we think we are getting better and we then feel like we have taken steps back - this is what happens. The body allows one of these layers to be removed, cause we are geting stronger. So there is one less layer to protect us from this pain which we inevitably feel. You keep the faith in yourself honey, you get your butt here more and let loose. You know we don't do Chinese whispers and the likes. Baby steps honey that is all you can do. Paris, here you come and you get your ass out there girl on that stage at Moulin Rouge
Wendy - oh Wendy, I felt like going round to see your inlaws and giving them a kick up the arse!! People are just dim and no they never fail to amaze with their stupidity. Its getting carried away and not thinking. My mil has said a few times to me 'your wedding champagne' - may not seem a biggie. Apart from the fact that those keenos ordered champagne after we got engaged for a wedding we were planning the next year This champagne didn't get used as our wedding got brought forward as my dad got diagnosed and prognosis was very poor. So, next time it gets said I will not bite my tongue and I will stick the champagne where the sun don't shine - I will keep you posted on that one!!! Don't let the silly sods get you down and if they mention it again, refuse to talk about it, after saying well what did you expect as my dad was in the dvd? Kick ass girl...... Oh yes, we are owed money for guess Wills weight. Pay up You naughty Monkeys!!
Sam - hey honey. Wow, do you remember that song from Chas 'n' Dave...You got more rabbitt than Sainsburys..ha ha great to chat to you. I had almost forgotten what you sounded like. Big hugs honey. You are Superb and you keep remembering how amazing you are
Em - hello nosey parker!! ha ha I have a job already. Thanks for asking. Good to see you back here honey and yes you are a LOT stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Barbie - yipppeee, great to see you around honey. I see that you untied Nic and let her go!!! I think I will soonish have known you for a year. Wow, and look at all the trouble you have gotten me into!! ha ha
Sue - was thinking of you this weekend. Big hugs
Mel - you been kicked out of US yet? Or are your bags so big they won't let you on the plane?? ha ha. Hope you had a good time. Hey the first time I went away - which was just 6 months after my dad died, it was strange. Cause, I wasn't 'me'. My life was still tinged with too much loss and pain, yet there were glimpses of joy and 'wow life' is wonderful. You just make sure you grieve in your way. Cry when you need to and those around you will learn that crying is natural. I cried at a friends yesterday when he showed me a video clip of my dad. He really thought he had shocked me and upset me. Quite the opposite it was wonderful, beautiful, sad, heart wrenching, made me oooze with pride. So many emotions in one go.
Donna - hope the op has gone well. keeping fingers crossed for you
Jac - sending you big hugs and loads of PMA your way. Everyday no matter what is going on, you sit in a corner and have 5 mins to yourself, to just breathe deeply and be you. Don't doubt yourself, cause we all know how amazing you are, even if you forget.
Kelsey - honey, thinking of you. You not being here makes me think the scan is not so good. Whatever happens honey you know we are all here for you. You can deal with everything.
Well, I am seeing my cousin this weekend and I don't know what to do. Her dad is now getting breathless and there had been a shadow on his lung for an x-ray - which has since been dismissed. He has lost weight and to me the breathlessness reminds me of my dad not breathing properly. I am obviously thinking the worst and don't believe that my uncle just has prostate cancer, yet I do not want to worry my cousin if I am wrong. He can swallow properly which is good. I am going to have to tell her my thoughts and in turn that will make her push the doctors for more. On the flip side, if it has spread like I think then nothing will be done and sometimes ignorance is bliss?? Sorry, in a quandry on that one and thinking aloud - I will just see what she says and take her lead.
Hope I haven't missed anyone - which I normally do, as I am a silly billy!!! Much Love Bern xx
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Hiya from the double poster!!!
My 40th is on Friday!!!! Ohhh its scary lol, well no, it's not but still can't believe im nearly 40!!
Ah well never mind. Hope you are all keeping well as can be expected.
Me, i'm deciding what to wear for my party, i've lost 3 1/2 stone since last year and gone from blonde to reddy brown (hair that is lol)
Must resist the cakes on friday though. Big hugs to everyone Dawn xxxx
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Hiya from the double poster!!!
My 40th is on Friday!!!! Ohhh its scary lol, well no, it's not but still can't believe im nearly 40!!
Ah well never mind. Hope you are all keeping well as can be expected.
Me, i'm deciding what to wear for my party, i've lost 3 1/2 stone since last year and gone from blonde to reddy brown (hair that is lol)
Must resist the cakes on friday though. Big hugs to everyone Dawn xxxx
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Good Morning / Afternoon / Evening / Something ?????
Clock all wrong but just wanted to let you all know I'm home safe and sound (just!) and will catch you all properly tomorrow.
Love and hugs all round
Melly X
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yea da mushroom is back in da house
We can do real group hugs again now or has someone else gone off on their hols!!!!! All holidays are now banned unless we all go - yea a mac holiday!!!!!!
Hey double poster WOW 40 such a young age me thinks - hee hee i beat u to it a couple a months ago so i have to say how young that is. Well done u dawn on the weight loss - hey one cake wont hurt im sure. An early Happy birthday. (p.s. sam is much older than us both dawn - lol)
Now i need to for warn u all that a long post is on the way but not tonight as i is shattered and has been a very long day - be ready as will work on it all day tomorrow so match sticks at the ready.
Big hugs to alllllllllllll
Love
Helen
xx
P.S. just to let u know SAM sam F.I.L is doing ok and is now awake - still a way to go but defo moving in right direction. Spoke to here earlier and she sounded much better - sorry i dont spose all of u know he had a massive stroke during the night monday.
xx
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Morning All,
Whats going on here hey?? You are all very quiet. I suppose you are conserving your energy for the dolls massive, eargly awaited long message!! hee hee, Don't worry I will have red bull and strong coffee to go along with the match sticks. hee hee
Right better go, before I get a kick up the bum from the pink one.
I'm away for a week now, so won't be around.So Dawn a Very Happy Birthday to you.
Well, spoke to my cousin and as I thought, her dad is not a well bunny at all. The prostate is not the only place. Its in the upper and lower colon and I am expecting results to say the lung too. So far so good in the way that everyone is dealing with this, including my uncle, who is key. However, once the shock wears off, it may be a different story? Well looks like I will be learning more about the ba*tard illness again and my sleeves are rolled up, cause they will all get through this. My uncle is still here, still laughing, moaning and chatting...so no giving up. Every minute, every hour, every day is precious and that is how it will be dealt with.
So, big hugs to you all. Will be thinking of you and at 8pm tomorrow night I will raise a glass to you all. To your spirits, courage and love.... you are the beacons of light on dark days. Love galore Bern xx
Jac & Kelsey, you two ladies don't hide away for too long. If you are reading, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. You are allowed to say you feel crap, you know. We may not have the right answers, but you know we can listen and just remember the pressure cooker theory by Dr Bern!! If you don't release the steam, you will explode!!! XXX
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Hi all
Just popping in quickly to say sorry for not being around lately, I have been rushed off my feet with one thing or another and will now be away for the weekend but will be back to post properly to you all on Monday.
You have all been in my thoughts.
Love and hugs to all,
Sam X
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Hi Guys
So sorry not been around for a while. Well we had a lovely week away on holidays. I didn't say that I was going away (just that I wasn't going to be around) because I read something recently about thieves targetting messaging sites to find those on holiday to go and break into their houses. Well I know it's paranoid but I didn't want to temp fate! Been rushed off my feet at work since I got back and and end up flaking out at night and before I know it a week's past.
Dad had a pelvic, stomach, chest and brain scan though we have no results as yet. He had a very good week whilst I was away but has been terrible since I returned. Nothing is controlling his pain at the moment and he still being very sick. We're all going out next week for the night if he can manage it. I'm beginning to see what a fighter he is. I'm very proud of him but sick of his life being taken over. I asked at work what could be causing the sickness and am told it could be that his body is no longer absorbing the medication taken orally and that he may need some intravenous medication. The GP is at a complete loss to understand his pain patterns and is also amazed that he's done so well to be here still and look and function as well as he does (not my kind of well but well under the circumstances I guess).
So no news yet but sadly the only way is down and not up so I kind of don't want to know what the scan says anyway because it won't alter anything - well it will negatively not positively. I'm not feeling as stressed as I was so the holiday has done its trick and it was so good to be together spending time with hubby and little one.
Looking forward to catching up with you all. Hope you're doing OK Sam, Roch and Em I know you were struggling so if you want to talk, I'm back.
Mel, hope you enjoyed your hols.
Bern & Barbie - so good to find some friendly faces and 'old' favourites waiting here.
I know I've missed people but only in name only because I remember who you are my lovelies.
Speak soon.
Kelsey x
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Hi Kelsey,
Lovely to hear from you.
I'm sorry that your Dad is so unwell, and I hope something can be done to help him be more comfortable. When are you expecting to get the results? We usually had a five day wait for ours, but others have mentioned anything upto a month.
I know that no matter what is dicovered that there is no way up from here, but sometimes the things that are discovered can be managed a little better. Special hugs coming your way. ((((XX))))
I returned to a flood in my house, as Dad had got a little busy with my bathroom. No heating, hot water and electricity. Ruined freezer full of water and mess everywhere. We kept our cool, reassuring Dad that it all didn't matter, but he went away a little upset. He was supposed to be coming to visit the cemetery with me today, but decided that he was rather upset us blaming him and had a big huff.
We did not blame him at all, he has just worked himself into a state, got so irate at me that I just completely lost it with him and my Brother. The problem is that the stage that I am at with my grief, doesn't allow me to cope with stress very well. But stress is caused by the littlest thing.
I've spent three days phoning and arranging appointments with plumbers and electricians, all to no avail, then to have him have the hump with me just sent me over the edge. We argued ourselves round in a circle to the point that we couldn't recall what point we were actually trying to make. I feel so sad and fed up with the world in general, and would just like someone to build me a nice little hutch to live in somewhere, and not give anyone the forwarding address.
The holiday was lovely, but rather than feel better, I felt worse, as I was constantly reminded of Mum. There were so many things that I thought "I will buy that as a gift for Mum" or "I can't wait to tell Mum that" and then the grief would hit.
I was feeling so bad, but then when I read your post, I realised the feelings that come with the situation you are in now are so hard, and I know that I couldn't go back there, so I must have moved forward in some way.
You have tough time ahead, but you will never be alone.
