Everything is too hard. Husband had colonoscopy recently. Found something waiting for histology, CT and MRI.
Consultant said my T2N0M0 is a cure rather than remission. Now on 5 year follow up.
Now possibility of husband with same disease (only looks like worse).
How do I cope. If chemo as well. We are 35 miles from the hospital over an hour each way. I hear chemo can be all day. What do I do. What can I do. He is 80 years old 11 years older than me.
Everything I have done over the years to help myself he has taken and suddenly it's his idea.
Am I being selfish for being so overwhelmed already?
I have no friends or family to help hence selfishly venture on here.
Thank you for listening.
Hi FiveO
I am sorry you are feeling overwhelmed and finding everything too hard. A lot of it will be the uncertainty about knowing what’s coming, combined with fearing the worst. You are not being at all selfish. It’s hard to imagine anything worse than coming through it yourself and tthen finding yourself back at the beginning with someone else. You might want to contact the lovely people on our helplines, the phone number is below. If your husband does require multiple visits for chemo, you may find the hospital has a transport service that can be used, take a look at the hospital’s website.
I can see you are already a member of our bowel cancer forum. That’s a great place to share experiences with people who know exactly what this is like.
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