My mum has recently just been diagnosed with cancer after becoming ill over the last few months. I always had in the back of mind something serious was going on but it never made hearing the news any easier. I’ve honestly never felt so helpless and that I feel like my whole world is about to fall apart. We are currently waiting on getting the scans to get a true picture of what her diagnosis is and the stage. But I can’t help but have my head spiral of the worse possible outcomes. I speak to my mum daily and have such a close relationship. She was telling me she’s scared to die and isn’t ready and I just don’t know how to comfort her but sit there and want to cry too, because I’m also scared. I want to try be strong for her. I’m really trying but I just don’t know what to do. I feel like nothing else matters anymore my work hobbies anything that doesn’t matter until I know she’s going to pull through. I feel like I don’t feel present in the world now. I’m struggling how to manage this news.. I cry every day.. what do I do?
Hello Bexx96
Welcome to the online Community, although I am so sorry to find you joining us under these circumstances.
I understand mum has been diagnosed with cervical cancer and I can advise you the Community is divided into cancer specific groups and to chat with others with the same or similar diagnosis I would advise you to join this group:
Just click on the link I have provided and once the page opens up, click on "join" on the black banner at the bottom of the page. Once you have joined the group you can either copy and paste or repost the post above in the "New Here - Say Hello" section. I am sure you will find plenty of help and support there.
If you need any further help in navigating the Community, please do get back to me.
Best wishes - Brian.
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Hi Bexx96
You are at a very difficult point in the process at the moment-your mum has a cancer diagnosis, but you don’t know any more details at the moment.
It can be really hard not to let negative thoughts get a hold, and jump to worst case scenarios, so I’d echo my friend Millibob’s advice to join us in the cervical cancer group. I have been through cervical cancer twice now, and I try to make sure I welcome all our new members and try to support them, as do all the ladies in the group.
Hopefully we will be able to encourage and help support you through this. If it helps at all, I was diagnosed more than 7 years ago and am doing very well.
Sarah xx
