Cancer…. My dad

Tom2002 1 month ago

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I’m 24,

my mum had stage 3 breast cancer but has been in remission for seven years. My dad on the other hand has been diagnosed with late stage prostate cancer at 63, which feels so young for something like that.

lately I’ve been struggling with anxiety about my own health. I found a lump on my testicle and have been told it’s okay. Nevertheless it’s keeping me up all night.

I also feel guilty being so focused on my own situation when my family is going through to much.

i am so scared to lose my dad, which is inevitable but still scary. I am terrified as I enter my life knowing me and my partner will be trying for a child in the coming years I am unsure how I am supposed to learn how to be a dad or a man with my dad not there.

im sorry for the long message but im asking for advice from those who know. Do you have any advice for me to manage this situation….

thanks,

Tom.

Lenzie 1 month ago

You've got an awful lot going on, probably too much to sort out on your own right now. Each bit of your situation needs different kinds of attention. I'm glad you have had your lump checked out but the fact that you are not quite trusting of what you have been told is probably / possibly down to anxiety. That said, you are right to be proactive and it's a question of balance. The other matters to do with your parents are big life issues and I wonder if you would be prepared to seek therapeutic support.