My mum has currently had 12 cycles of chemo and has 2 left after having to abandon 2 of the Red Devil as it was making her too poorly. Her latest pet scan and biopsy show that she has active cancer cells in the lymph nodes of her armpits now. The surgeon stated it’s fine and he’ll just go in and snip them out. I’m a nurse by background and that change in her health has sent me spiralling. How do I control it. I’m the eldest of my mums kids with my sister being 21. I’ve found my own lump in my breast, had an ultra sound and a biopsy tomorrow but I can’t talk to my mum about it. I feel as though I’m losing a grip on reality and feel as though I’m actually going mad but I have no idea how to control this. I’m TERRIFIED of losing my mom that I think I’m putting misled through the grief cycle now. Any help would be appreciated please.
Hello Sherise Sherise
You would be surprised at the number of posts we get regarding this very subject. We have a great blog on Anticipatory Grief and the link is here:
Coping with anticipatory grief when you're supporting someone living with cancer
As for your own health, I wish you well with your appointment today, and should you need it, here's a link to our breast cancer group, where you will find others on the same or similar journey:
Don't forget our Support Line is there for you on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week) - it's a free call and they will also be able to help you.
Best wishes - Brian.
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