Im new to this type of forum, but sometimes somebody other than family is easier to talk to.
diagnosed yesterday, was such a shock as I thought I simply had a cyst or benign lump
dont know which way to turn at the moment. consultant offered lumpectomy with radiation or mastectomy but a big preference for mastectomy as more likely to be clear of cancer. Certainly not as not expecting a mastectomy and this one scares the living daylights out of me
I have a week or so to think about it and am just trying to work out which one. At the apt I was adamant that I didn’t want my breast off but a day later, I’m thinking the consultant was right to suggest this option. My
mom went through a mastectomy and I nursed her and to be honest, I think this has made it worse in even thinking about it Prosthetics, I know but how about swimwear and the bras I see are soft and stretchy which I could never wear as I’m so tiny. Always have had to wear underwired and a little push up to help give me something that little extra. Also have lost a lot of weight so even smaller now in the bust
so, I feel that, based on my past experience with soft no nothing bras, my prosthetic would make me lopsided with my boob side as I just can’t fill it. Don’t fancy going without anything, apart from in my own house Even if I do get reconstruction, what if I put my weight back on and get a fuller right boob to the pre constructed loss of weight boob I a bit confused what to do right now, for the best, health wise I know which choice, aesthetic wise, not a clue
any advice please
Hi Softie26 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and I had a lumpectomy followed by chemotherapy and radiotherapy for breast cancer 4 years ago.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the breast cancer group as you'll then connect directly with others who have the same type of cancer as you.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your diagnosis and proposed treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
All the best for today
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