at the end of December my mum was told she has stage 4 cancer and the treatment option is chemo (she had surgery in 2022 to remove it but it is back and it has spread). My mum lives alone in an independent housing scheme with a housing association. My mum has no one but me, yes we have had our ups and down due to mum having bipolar but now mum would like to be there to care for her through chemo. I put in a request for a managed move. I am with the same housing provider as my mum and I requested if we could be given a bigger property so mum could have her own room but so that we could be together. Mum had carers in the past but it made her mental health worse. This warden spoke to my mum to and really upset my mum by saying I am trying to get a bigger house with no intention of taking her with me because in the past we have had issues.
<span;>The gp and the doctors at the cancer hospital have wrote supporting letters too. I feel very upset and disheartened at this response. Is anyone able to advise? I did ring her and clarified some points but I dont think she was bothered. She made some awful comments to be honest.
Hi Tina35 and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your mum.
A cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot….. I have no first hand experience that can help ypu.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Supporting someone with incurable cancer (if this is applicable)
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, financial advice or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
