Not the best news

I'm sorry you have received such bad news. Doctors absolutely hate giving you a life expectancy because it's so difficult to know. If you have a scientific background you can maybe find out the average life expectancy yourself but they can be different for different sexes (biological sex not anything you may wish to be), ages and state of previous health. You can try to improve your odds by eating very healthily when you feel like eating. You may also find there are experimental treatments. Do you have someone who can go with you to appointments? It's quite useful to record what is said and perfectly legal to do this without notice if it is purely for your own benefit.

Try to write a list of questions before your next appointment, for example if chemo shrinks the tumour will it then be operable? there's a list you may want to consider here www.macmillan.org.uk/.../questions-to-ask-your-healthcare-team

This is advice I give everyone - regardless of life expectancy if you havent made a will yet everyone should have one. A friends sister died young in an accident, it would have been easier for him if she'd had a will. People will fight over the smallest things sometimes and definitely over money. If you have someone you trust you might want to do a lasting power of attorney so they can take financial decisions when you dont feel up to it.

Waiting is awful. Magnesium is good for stress and dark chocolate is a good source. Some alternative therapies may be useful - I'm not into the theories behind yoga but find alternate nostril breathing relaxing when I cant sleep. It's worth trying mindfulness to see if it helps you.

I hope you have people around who can support you at a difficult time.

Thank you 

Hi Chrissy,

So sorry to hear about your situ. I had some bad news today also, that the LIVER CANCER which had spread from BOWEL CANCER, is back and worse, even after an ABLATION. I am confused as to whether what the outcome will be after a MRI scan. Been told CHEMO or SURGERY!

Anyway, you need keep pushing these people for more info,ok, please don't agree to anything, until you find out the facts. I hope you have good family and friends who can help you - I get told to be positive, well, by people who really don't know how it really is... C'est la Vie!

Take care x

Ah thank you so much for letting me know your story and situation...cancer never bloody sits still does it ..it's one thing after another....hope you are keeping positive in these trying times ..bitf a day today, I've been told that I have GIST....wow..I did not even know they existed...a bit of a whopper too... what ever next ...I can't keep up..phew ...so more biopsies needed and investigation to find it's stage but it has gone into my spleen and a few other places so interesting times ahead... thank you so much for getting back to me and wish you all the luck ...take care xx

Hey Chrissy,

How's it going?

I am waiting for my MRI scan..with contrast.

Anyway, most people are in CHRISTMAS mode now - do you have any plans despite your situ?

If you ever want to chat, just let me know.

Take care x