I have had a whirlwind diagnosis and removal of colon tumour and am now day 5 post op. I have not processed anything that has happened it feels so surreal. I am home and cannot sleep. I am in a lot of pain tonight which isnt helping. I wanted to ask people how their partners have coped or how they have discussed events with their partners. My husband is off work to support my recovery but is very tetchy and getting cross or mean with me. I think I undrestand why he is like this as everyone's focus has been on me the patient yet he has been through the whole event too.
How do I talk to him? How do I get what we have both been through out in the open and processed?
Hi giraffeladybbfda6 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although I've had different cancer diagnoses to you I know how difficult dealing with cancer can feel.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you also join the bowel cancer group as you'll then connect directly with others who have the same type of cancer as you.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
As for how to broach the subject of your cancer diagnosis and treatment with your husband you might find this information from Macmillan on talking about your cancer diagnosis and cancer and relationships helpful.
It would be great if you could put something about your diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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