Feeling fed up and frustrated

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My husband is waiting for his next scan and he’s retreated to the point where we’re hardly talking and he’s spending every waking minute doing the house up ,which sounds wonderful but I said to him it’s April ,by the time you’ve finished these jobs it will be Autumn and we’ve spent no time together all summer ,please can you have a few weeks off ,just a walk to the beach with the dog or a coffee somewhere .It hasn’t happened and now the nights are drawing in and I’m hurt lonely and bloody furious .Hes told me he wants to get everything done in case the worse happens but I’ve said I’d rather spend time with him and there needs to be a happy medium but no.I feel really angry and resentful .His scan is next week and if one more person says oooh you’ve got to think positive I’m going to scream Why have I ? Why  I not allowed to be scared ? I’m not moping round or forcing it on anyone else but I am scared .I know people mean well but I want to scream Angry

  • Hi Karen Y

    Yes, this 'you've got to think positive' cliche drives me nuts too! It really isn't helpful at all. Of COURSE you are scared and worried, that's absolutely normal. 

    Hopefully, once your husband has had the scan and results, he'll be able to unwind a little, and pay attention to you, as well as the house. You're going through a difficult time, but you won't have much longer to wait before you have news. I hope it is positive, then your husband may relax and things may get back on an even keel for you both.

    Maybe you could plan a short break for after he's had the scan, whilst you're waiting for results? If he doesn't want to go, maybe there's someone else you could go with? A friend or family? You need to look after your own wellbeing too!

    Hope you keep posting....

    xxx Kate

  • Thanks Kate ,we are going on a cruise next weekend but I’m that furious that he’ll only be spending time with me because he’s got to .I know that sounds childish but that’s how I’m feeling .Thank you for your reply x