Recently diagnosed Stage 4 Breast cancer , lobular, ductal & now triple negative in lymph node& numerous suspicious nodules in my lungs. Consultant recommends immediate chemo & immunotherapy.
Stupid thing is I feel fine & have been adopting the ' business as usual' status. I asked the consultant that if I didn't start treatment what the prognosis would be - deterioration within 3-6 months - so its a no brainer really. Thing is I'm starting to crumble. My husband has prostate cancer which due to an increasing PSA has been told the cancer is "active in his body somewhere". He is disabled & not very mobile so with my news he is now not coping. Angry frustrated & drinking. No longer making meals as he used to as I did the rest of the household chores & he's resentful & scared too. I'm supporting my brother who has stage 4 renal cancer & my daughter has her own family health issues.
I am finding it so difficult to navigate my own news & their needs too. I'm not a confrontational person more of a peace keeper but I'm just losing my way in all of this. I want to do so much but am held back looking after others & time is running out . I just need to share this because its overwhelming me. I'm not sure if this is the right place ..
Hi there Wren21.
I'm so sorry that you're going through such troubling times, but just wanted to assure you that people are listening. I can't help you to find the forum most pertinent to yourself, but one of our community champions will be along to help you do this.
Please accept my sincere sympathy for your plight and I hope you'll find a way through this.
Sending you hugs and strength xxx
Hi again Wren, lovely to hear from you.
I think you could be right about being 'lost' but no worries as I'll try to help.
I usually post in the Head and Neck cancer forum; I'm my fella's carer, and he had a total laryngectomy last December. I'm also very active in Awake and up all night, a forum specifically for those who are rubbish at sleeping, but it's open to everyone and we talk about anything under the sun, not just about cancer.
Have you joined the breast cancer forum? If you'd like to connect with others there to discuss things pertinent to yourself, that would be a start. If you'd rather just chat in general, air grievances, etc. Awake is great for that. Join both as you'll get a very warm welcome from us all.
You already 'know' me, so maybe have a think and then go for it.
Hope this has been some help and looking forward to seeing you again.
Sending hugs xxx
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