My husband has just finished chemo and radio for rectal cancer and had a tumour removed from his liver 3 weeks ago via ablation .He had bowel cancer two years ago and four liver tumours last year .Hes been pretty tired and is now starting to feel a lot better which obviously I’m thrilled about but he’s doing jobs around the house .Hes got about 4 jobs on the go at the same time and the house is a bomb site .I keep asking if he’ll finish one before starting another but he won’t and the mess and tools everywhere is driving me crazy when I just need calm and organisation .Im so thrilled he’s feeling well enough to do things but it’s at the cost of everything else .I keep asking if he’ll spend time with me and he says yes but never does ,he’s too busy to walk our dog ,he’s short tempered and quite turned in on himself .After a hard winter of treatment I feel like I’m being selfish and not grateful that he’s feeling better but I feel so lonely and that doing jobs is so much more important than spending any time with me .What happened to making memories .ive asked if he needs to talk to anyone and he just says no
Hi Karen Y
That's great news that your husband is beginning to feel a lot better but I can understand your frustrations about his DIY projects and lack of time to spend with you.
I can see you're a member of the carers only forum so why don't you pop this message there as well as I'm sure you'll find other carers who will understand exactly what you're going through.
((hugs))
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