Hi, my dad passed away yesterday 30/06/24, following 3 weeks of palliative care. He was first diagnosed in December 23 but by May 24 we were told his enzalutamide and hormone therapy were not working and he would decline rapidly. My mum has been quite difficult to handle throughout this period. Shes very angry moaning about everything to done by her in front of dad but then has calm moments. She is sometimes irrational and twists things that are said between us. I’m really struggling to deal with her. She wants counselling but not yet. I need some advice as her GP didn’t listen when I suggested she had a mental health problem. Mum will not self refer. I contacted the hospice to see if dad could have inpatient care due to mums behaviour but that wasn’t taken seriously either as dads wishes were to stay at home. She was wanting to keep dad’s oramorph too but we removed it from the house.
Hi McDoddy and I am so sorry to hear about your dad, my sincere condolences.
This is a very difficult time for you all but it may help connecting with others who are navigating the same journey so do consider joining and posting in our dedicated Bereaved Family and Friends Support Group.
There is quite a lot of information in What to do after someone dies and many hospitals have bereavement services who may be able to offer support.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
((hugs))
Sorry to hear of your struggles. Your mum is probably bewildered at the prospect of losing her beloved husband. She probably just doesn't know how to express that side of her fears. It's good that 
u can support each other. Take care
