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i was diagnosed with breast cancer in Feb and had lumpectomy in March. April told that don't need chemo and only radiotherapy and hormone tablets.

I should be celebrating. I should be so happy.

I am a total mess and cry from the moment i get up until i flake out early afternoon.

  • Hi  and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

    That's great to read that after having a lumpectomy you've been told that you just need radiotherapy and hormone tablets as follow up treatment. However, it's not good that you're constantly crying and I think from the title of your post that you realise that you might be suffering from depression. Have you spoken to your GP about how you feel as they are a good starting point?

    You might not be aware but Macmillan have teamed up with Bupa to offer up to 4 free counselling sessions for people who are struggling emotionally because they are living with cancer. To find out more about this just click on the link.

    As the online community is divided into different support forums I'm going to recommend that you also join the breast cancer forum as you'll then connect directly with others who've had a similar diagnosis.

    To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

    It would be great if you could put something about your diagnosis and treatment to date into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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  • hello, thank you so much for responding.  how do i get to the breast cancer forum?

  • If you click on the dark green writing 'breast cancer forum' in my first reply to you, that will take you to the forum. Anything in bold dark green is a link to more information.


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  • Hi 

    I’m in exactly the same position as you and just coming to the end of the radiotherapy. I too should be celebrating but have spent the last few weeks in a state and crying all the time ,so I understand how you’re feeling . I’ve been referred to a psychologist to talk things through which helps , maybe that’s an option for you . 

  • I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis and the emotional toll it's taking on you. It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and emotional, even with the good news about not needing chemotherapy. Dealing with a cancer diagnosis and undergoing treatment is incredibly challenging, both physically and emotionally.

    It's okay to feel a mix of emotions, including sadness and fear, even when you should be celebrating. It's a lot to process, and it's important to give yourself permission to feel whatever you're feeling. Remember that it's okay to lean on your loved ones for support, and consider reaching out to a therapist or support group who can provide additional support and guidance during this difficult time. Celexa helped me a lot.

    You're not alone, and it's okay to not feel okay right now. Take things one day at a time, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate this journey. Sending you strength and healing thoughts.

  • Mark is bang on. It’s ok, not be ok however, it’s not ok to be ‘not ok’ for an extended period (if you get what I mean).

    I’ve had numerous talking therapy options in the desire to get ‘fixed’. Unfortunately, no one will ‘fix us’ but they can help us to find systems, processes and strategies to make things better.

    Help is out there.