Hello,
I'm recovering from Head & Neck cancer and had a partial mandibulectomy and neck dissection in Dec 23. I also lost 5 teeth. No radiation as yet, unless the cancer returns. My neck flap has been made into new 'gum' and I can't have dentures until at least the end of this year (24).
I have seen nothing on this type of cancer and relationships and I'm fine with being open and identifiable, if it helps anyone.
So, obviously the first few weeks, kissing was out as bottom lip (and chin) completely numb, swollen 'gum' and internal stitching in mouth as well as 40 stitches in my neck. This was tough as we are a passionate couple who love kissing as well as a very healthy love life, lucky us!
After a couple of months we managed to get back to almost full-on kissing, just got to be a bit careful but there was full enjoyment of mind and body. The same with oral sex, as long as care is taken with depth and speed, it is all good. There are some funny noises though with the space the missing teeth have caused but if anything, that adds to the sexiness.
So, your sex life and wonderful kissing isn't necessarily over once you have had oral surgery, it just takes time and tender, loving care.
All the best to anyone going through this.
Oh, I don't blame your partner, I love escaping the winters. Hope you get to go, Sydney is a great place to visit. In Adelaide today it's been quite a cool and breezy day, only 22 degrees, definitely becoming quite autumnal now and dark far too early. I didn't wake up until 1pm as didn't sleep well at all. Cancer has affected my sleep at times but think I will sleep well tonight, fingers crossed!
Have a fab weekend. 
