Sex and cancer - Let's talk

I hope the counselling goes well Sarah.

Same for me Jane-the fear of dying was foremost in my mind, and in any event apart from your partner, no-one actually sees your vagina!

In actual fact I look no different externally anyway so it’s not something anyone would notice if they did see me. They’d immediately notice my two stoma bags which are always going to be seen straight away for example when I’m in hospital. 

Sarah xx

She sounded lovely on the phone and seems a very sensible Yorkshirewoman! She sent me her picture via email because I can’t face video calls yet, although that might come in time, and she looked very kind. My gut feeling is that she can help me.

Sarah xx! 

That sounds positive Sarah.I hope it will be a fruitful.

Thanks Jane-fingers crossed.

Sarah xx

Hi Sarah, I hope your new counsellor can help you find what your looking for, I know how important the right counsellor can be, Been having counselling for 6 months, fortnightly at first, now every week for as long as i need it at my hospice and I can't thank her enough for all she does for me, take care.

Eddie xx

I am just catching up, after writing about Penis Cancer.  I never believed that a women would fully understand what I am feeling… this was obviously incorrect, I was totally ignorant about women having their virginal  removed.. so my heart goes out to everyone affected.

I was fascinated to read about reconstruction of the virgina, if this exist, then maybe there is an option for men who have lost part of the penis??  I would be interested to hear from any men who have discussed this with their consultant.

it took me several years to come to terms with the new look body, so I’m not concern about that now, so any cosmetic improvements would be more about the function…namely “anorgasmia” .  I won’t go into detail, you can Google that!

Hello Shepherd, there is a procedure involving several operations to reconstruct the penis it is called phalloplasty, It is done at very few hospitals and as you had cancer, even if you were suitable you would have to be clear of cancer for 5 years before you could be considered,

Eddie

Thanks Eddie.

I’ve got my 5 year check-up in three weeks, that said I have had 4 operation, the last just 2 years ago.

I’ll ask the question but I won’t raise my hopes at this stage. 

your welcome my friend, though I think you may have to ask the question more than once, but we all deserve some good luck at times. take care.

Eddie