I’m new to this, and I’m recovering from Bowel ops to remove tumours, I have secondaries in the liver, which I’ll be receiving chemo for in approximately 3 weeks, it was all very sudden after getting results from a bowel screening test in December to going through ops in February, my wife was really supportive initially, but I did notice a change in her feelings not long after getting home , anyway, very suddenly she told me that she hadn’t loved me for a long time and basically told me to leave, I’m not going to deny that things weren’t great pre-op, and we had a few ding dongs, but we were always quick to make up and enjoyed time together walking/holidays,etc, I remember when I was in hospital saying to her that I felt that the experience would bring us closer together, anyway last Thursday the day of my meeting with the oncology dept, was the day she asked me to leave, I was very upset at this to the point I didn’t really care at the time what they said to me and switched off after they said that what I have isn’t curable but is treatable, I was so confused not only by this but her also her decision, she took me directly to my mums from the hospital , my bags had been packed,I haven’t spoken or heard from her since, initially very hurt and very upset, I’ve decided that I can’t dwell on this, I need to concentrate on me, my friends and family are in shock about it ,especially my son,(not hers)I’m sorry, I’m not looking for sympathy on here, I guess I’m just talking out loud and saying things I find difficult to say to people I know,as it it still raw, I don’t think I will ever forgive her, although a minuscule thought in my head is saying, why would she live a lie and stay with me, and in the long run ,maybe she did the right thing?
