How do I make people feel comfortable?

Hi kajay8 sorry to hear about the journey you are and the challenges you are dealing with.

You may want to consider joining our dedicated Living with incurable cancer - incurable patients only support group….(Please join the group but for everyones safety this will then have to be approved by the Macmillan Community Team so will not happen immediately)

This is a good place to talk with others who are most likely navigating the same challenges ((hugs))

Hello Kayjay8, and welcome, as i am on the, living with incurable cancer forum, like, "Thehighlander", i would recommend it also, as well as the breast cancer forum. There is an adjustment period after telling friends and family where they have to come to terms with their feelings and how to be with you. Kayjay this is what i did/do, i try to be myself and i only talk about my cancer with  family and friends if they bring the subject up, It took about 7 weeks until relationships returned to normal though a couple of "friends" disappeared, Kayjay when people told my they were sorry i would thank them, give them a hug and tell them, i am still the same person, so please don't let my diagnosis change our relationship as it means a lot to me. I really hope treatment goes well for you, please take bare, Eddie

Hi, I have terminal Brian cancer, so I'm in that same zone I don't know what to say but then I'm not sure if they think the same I was only diagnosed in September, I except my prognosis as it is what it is , I have a friend who I haven't seen for years that as been solid for me and a real blessing others seem to have hidden and it seems odd, so I'll justplod on with no rules and try keep a smile , take care and good luck

Oh how weird!  I am also treatable but not curable.  People find this space very challenging and generaly say the most inappropriate things - they don't know what's to be expected or how to deal with it.  One way to manage this is to not make it public knowledge, or be careful who is shared this info.   Terminal prognosis is generally not used these days, because "terminal" now can result in people living for many years,   But people hear "terminal" and think you'll be dead in months.  Probably some response explaining it's not "The End" and commiserations aren't appropriate and you wish to be treated the same as before are in order.  Emphasis the treatable approach and the positivity you articulate in your post and hopefully people will get on the page.  

Hello Lec, you will always have friends here, take care,

Thanks 

Mmum, unfortunately, I’m now not having treatment. My liver is just too far advanced with cancer and the risk of me becoming very poorly overnight, or other seriously high risk side effects, means I’m just too late for even targeted therapy. My liver has started to fail. When my time comes, I hope I go peacefully, quickly and  pain free. My primary breast cancer was misdiagnosed for 6 months, and my secondary liver, bone and lung cancer was missed , after me reporting strange symptoms over six months ago. I feel let down and everything about my cancers were picked up far too late. I now have to accept my fate.  

Do come and join us in the  Living with incurable cancer forum - patients only group though, to meet people in a same/similar situation and all the different experiences and perspectives they bring. 

Hi I too have recently just started Enhertu and was wondering how your getting on? I’ve only had three rounds but I’m finding it tough going, does it get easier? Have you lost your hair?