Hello everyone,
im a young girl 26 y.old still in postpartum period i have my daughter 7 months old, and is 2 weeks i have found i have a cancer .
I have a husband which his not supporting me at all. But the things it scares me a lot is thinking about anything bad and not been able to enjoy my little baby.
since I started noticing that there in my body was something wrong , of course I shared with my husband, and during the time that i was waiting the appointment with my gp to discuss about this, he (my husband) never ask me anything even how i was feeling it.
The day i had the biopsy and the diagnos he was with me in the room with the doctor, and saw how shocked and scared I was. but this didn't affect him at all.
the next day while I spent my day crying, having panic attacks but at the same time trying to take care of my daughter he didn't come home after work but went to a party, and returned at 2 am.
Since that day we have been having many arguments . he continues to tell me things that I never imagined I would hear, much less in this hard moment. ( things like: you cause me stress just by seeing you. you are the worst decision I have ever made. I don't care about you. I won't cancel my vacation to go to the hospital with you.ecc so much more unfortunately)
and last night I started seeing messages on his phone with other women, and exchanges of attention with them.
i can not understand why is this going on, what i did wrong ? Is that easy to let someone go after she give birth of your child only 7 month ago? Why his not sensitive to understand how i feel now? Why him doing this and now to me?
he should be my biggest support now, he should tell me that we gonna grow up our daughter together…. Ecc.
If I don’t found support on him and helping me with our baby is this good to keep going on? I think is better for me to let him go but I don’t know what to do and from where I should start.
im sorry for my bad English and for the long message.
many thanks to everyone who gonna reply
Hi Italian lady and welcome to the community but I am so sorry to read about the challenges you are having. This is a very emotional and difficult time for you. I don't have any experience that can help you out but please call the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and give support to all the family.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) but you don’t say what type of cancer you have but if you care to have a look through THIS LIST you will find all our many dedicated cancer support groups listed.
These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from members who are navigating the same journey.
Have a look through the list I have given you above and once you find the group for your cancer type you can join the group by selecting “Click to Join” when the black banner appears or “Join” under “Group Tools” (this all depends on the device you are using)
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