In Aug 2021 I was diagnosed with breast cancer...I was 49 at the time and had never had any checks despite a history of breast cancer in the family.
I had the most AMAZING oncologist who put me through every MRI check possible and gave me her upmost attention and actually listened when I said my body reacts to drugs and treatment different to the norm. She was a constant support to me and, with her support, got on with the treatments (of which had many awful side effects) but kept on trying to work from home through it all to keep me going (despite wanting to just curl up and bury my head in the sand!) I had a very supportive manager at that time and eventually, post op in May 2022 my last treatment was in March 2023. The chemo has actually destroyed my long nerves in my legs so can not walk safely without the aid of walking sticks and most definitely can not drive as, what with that, have ongoing neuropathy in my feet to boot, it's not possible at the moment despite my continued efforts to improve my mobility.
I've just been bullied out of my job and am just struggling with the fact that I can battle all the rubbish that treatment has thrown at me yet, I've been made to feel so low by a narcissistic arrogant man that doesn't have a clue about my job specialism and my dedication to that role.
Every day it's in my head that I haven't complained or cried or most likely, comprehend what I've been through, what it's put my friends and family through and that it's now torment trying to deal with the demons battling my head!
Am I alone?!!
Hi Dore and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read about all the side effects you've experienced from your breast cancer treatment and it sounds very difficult for you. You also shouldn't need to worry about your job on top of everything else.
I can see that you've joined the breast cancer group and I'm sure if you post there you'll find others who have had similar experiences to you regarding your side effects.
It might also be a good idea to speak to an advisor on the Macmillan Support Line about losing your job. You can do this either by posting in the Ask a Work Support Adviser section of the online community or by phoning them on 0808 808 0000.
It would be great if you could put something about your diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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