My Mum is in a nursing home for end of life care. In June she was only expected to survive a matter of months. Mum is almost 73, has cervical cancer and is taking medication to manage her pain.
Mum has not seen a consultant since June when she was admitted to a hospice for support and pain management. Mum spent a few weeks in the hospice then returned home with carers visiting 4 times per day. it became apparent that Mum needed around the clock care so we decided on a nursing home.
Since being in the Nursing home, she has not had any hospital check ups or scans. I would like to know if Mums cancer has spread or if there are any changes.
Her other family members do not live close by and cannot visit regularly. If her illness has progressed, I don't know and cannot offer them any updates.
I feel scared that Mum is not going to be here much longer but maybe she will. Is it normal to want to know what to expect?
I dont want to sound morbid but I am struggling to cope and dont know what to do. Xx
Hi Sam M
I'm very sorry to read that your mum has been given an incurable cancer diagnosis and it sounds like you have a lot to deal with.
As you know the online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group, which is for carers, friends and families of people with a terminal diagnosis to discuss their emotions as well as practical issues.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
((hugs))
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