I want to start this short, 18 months ago my partner was diagnosed with breast cancer at 35. After chemotherapy, radiotherapy and surgery and still receiving herceptin my partner overcome cancer and beat this terrible disease and in in remission.
My father was diagnosed a week apart from my partner with CUP cancer of the unknown primary. After chemotherapy and radiotherapy, it was later discovered this had spread to his bones. And we have found out recently it’s spread further in his bones, ribs and spine in two places (from the pelvis) and possible prostate.
I’m incredibly happy my partner over one this disease and her fight was won. My dads sadly will not. I actually can’t deal with this. I know what the inevitable is. I’ve unfortunately had no one to turn to. I felt o couldn’t turn to my partner as she was going through similar. I have friend but felt no one understood.
I have supported my partner and family emotional and financially and wanted to do so. This is the correct this. I’ve also support my mother and father in both ways also.
I am now in a position where my father is only going to get worse. My partner is free from this disease. But I’ve neglected myself and have made mistakes and faulted on my relationship because I didn’t deal with my own emotions.
I didn’t feel I had anyone because I prioritised others. And rightly so I believe. But this has now changed my mindset and I’ve made some possibly irreversible mistakes which I’m now not sure how to address.
Hi TK27JK welcome to the forum. It is not easy any of what has happened for you or what continues to happen . I have always found thta a problem shared is a problem halved and talking is not always east but I know for a fact that it does help to talk to others and it sounds like you are asking for that in many ways by saying you think that you have made some irreversible mistakes. Most things can be fixed if people know about then and can maybe offer some guidance and information on how best to maybe approach this.
I wonder if you felt able to that you could pick up the phone and have a chat with one of the Advisors at the Macmillan Line, they are great but they are also people that you are unlikely to ever meet so you can talk with them if that helps? They are available everyday between 8am-8pm and are contactable on 08088080000.
Best wishes and please do keep in touch with us here and let us know how you are doing.
gail
