Feeling lost after partner diagnosed 4 years with bowl cancer , liver mets. He is so angry and difficult to live with .

Hi Russell57 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

I'm sorry to read that your partner has been diagnosed with bowel cancer and that you're finding living together very difficult right now.

As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so can I recommend that you also join and post in the carers only group, as you'll then connect directly with others who may have been in a similar situation.

To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here, and join in with existing conversations by clicking on reply.

It would be great if you could pop something about your partner's diagnosis and treatment to date into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

Hi. 
It can be so hard to live with the worry/stress of all this going on. Plus the anger that they feel because of what they are going through.

I think they sometimes forget that you are there doing it with them & it’s so important to try and stick together. But it is not always possible, it’s so hard to not take out the frustration & anger out on the ones closer to you. 

Do you do things for yourself? Sometimes taking myself out of the situation ( for dinner with a friend or book a massage) makes me have that time I need to breathe and he then realised when he’s been angry at me etc. 

My partner doesn’t get angry all of the time but some days I can tell he just needs space to chill out!