I always get this feeling that I wasn't there enough for my loved one whom is suffering from cancer. I really have noticed how much I took them for granted & now feel guilty for not being with them alot even when they were diagnosed I still kinda shut them out & it makes me feel really disappointed in myself.
Hi Flowerr and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sure that your loved one understands that it's not always possible for you to be there all the time.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so I hope you don't mind me recommending that you also join and post in either the carers only group, if you are their carer, or the family and friends group if you're not their carer. Either group is a safe and supportive place to discuss your worries and emotions with others who will understand what you're going through.
To join the appropriate group just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here.
It would be great if you could pop something about your loved one's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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