Why do I feel so guilty

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Hello all, My wife of 45 years was diagnosed with SCLC in feb 22 that had spread to, both lungs, breast and lymphs, she started treatment and had chemo, radiotherapy and immunotherapy since June last year, and we thought it was going well but we have had recent scans that now show the immuno is not working and it has now spread to the brain and growing in the lungs again. they have now said that they are stopping treatment and have said 2-3 months, 

My problem is that i just wish it would end and and she would pass away in her sleep so she would not be suffering and in pain it is so hard to see the person that I have spent my life with going downhill, why is it so wrong to wish her dead sooner rther than later, when I still love her so much, I have adhd and ocd and I know this will play on my mind when it does happen and it is playing on my mind already that I have thought about being on my own and doing things.

I go to Maggies support group which helps but where can i get deep emotional/spiritual support and help.

Many thanks for just reading this  

Les

  • Hi  

    I'm very sorry to read about your wife's prognosis and I can only begin to imagine what a difficult time this must be for you both.

    As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups, so I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you also join and post in the supporting someone with incurable cancer group, which is a great place to to get support from others who will understand the emotions you are going through.

    To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here, and join in with existing conversations by clicking on reply.

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  • Hi Latchbrook 

    Many thanks for the reply I have clicked on the link and posted on that site, and sorry for your situation and all the best wishes in the future