Feeling low after treatment

Hi Betty661 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

As you know, the community is divided up into different support group so I hope you don't mind me suggesting a couple for you to join.

The first is the eye cancer group where you'll be able to chat to others who have had a similar experience to you and will know all about the highs and lows a cancer diagnosis can bring.

The second group is the bereaved family and friends group which is a safe and supportive place to talk about the loss of your father with others who have experienced loosing someone to cancer.

If you'd like to join either or both of these groups, just click on the links I've created which will take you straight there. You can then join the group and start a new post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with any existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

When you feel up to it, it would be great if you could pop something about your diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.

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Hi Betty661

I think this is a very natural reaction. You've been concentrating on dealing with your diagnosis and surgery and the changes to your body and all of a sudden you're in the clear and back to normality, but a different normality.

Also, as you so rightly say, your grief for your father is still very new; in my experience 6 months is a very short time when you're grieving for someone you love. 

I'm attempting to attach a link to an article written by a psychologist which addresses the mixture of emotions cancer patients have when their treatment ends. My computer skills aren't great though so you might need to copy and paste it 

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https://www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

Thank you so much for that “worried mum”. The article really sums up how I’m feeling right now. I am going  to share this article with my partner.I feel he expects things to be back to normal now that my treatment is completed but I feel anything but !! In fact I feel lower now than when I was facing diagnosis and  treatment , it hasn’t helped that the reconstructive surgery of my eye has left residual swelling and scars !! My confidence has really taken a hit !! It’s really helpful to know that how I’m feeling is pretty normal ! xx

My daughter is due to have cancer surgery next week and I've been trying to find things to help her, which is how I stumbled on this article, and I'm delighted it helped you too. I think it's a good idea to share it with your partner too because it isn't easy to understand and we 'bystander' all really want to help the people we love. I'm sending my love and good wishes for the future xxxx

I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is due to have cancer surgery. I have a daughter myself and can’t even begin to imagine how difficult this time is for you. I have experienced the loss of my brother and father to cancer and I know how difficult it is to know whether you are supporting those that you love in the best way. From the kind words and support that you have given me I feel sure that you are surrounding your daughter with the love and support that she needs. I do hope that your daughter has the best possible outcome next week and I am sending you both, lots of positive thoughts , love and best wishes xx