Looking after a Spouse with cancer

Hello frogmore, you are being very honest in sharing how you feel in order to help others. 

I would like to say that when you are caring for someone the lines between carer and relative can easily get blurred, it's impossible for them not to.   Having spent many years as a hospice nurse I found that generally patients were aware of the blurred lines but knew it was love that motivated the caring.  Being cared for by a family member is usually much nicer and personal than a strange carer.  Please don't carry guilt around with you anymore as I truely believe that people understand the changing roles we take on in caring for them and accept that love is still shown albeit in a different form. X