My now ex partner was diagnosed with bowel cancer in 2017. He was operated on and now to uses a stoma bag. I have been there since he was diagnosed, through the operation and recovery process I was with him through chemo and all of his side effects which included mood changes and him being verbally nasty to me on occasion. I supported him when his mood was at the lowest Supported him when he first had his stoma bag as he was embarrassed by this and didn’t feel like a proper man. His daughter from previous marriage and the rest of his family did not know what was happening behind closed doors because i always hid what he was putting me through. He is now cancer free and has been for 12 months
This year I have had my own health issues I am awaiting tests for cervical cancer which are taking place in the new year
My partner has decided to finish the relationship he finished with me just before Christmas I have heard nothing from him or any of his family since I have spent all of Christmas on my own stressing over the tests have next week he won’t take me for the tests and he won’t support me if results do show I have cancer
i feel so used, I have stood by him for 6 years if it wasn’t for me insisting he went to the GP in the first place he may not be alive today
i am angry with him and his family for abandoning me when I need them most
im sorry for ranting on here but I was wondering if anyone else had been through this experience I have no family of my own
I have a couple of close friends who have said they would support me through my journey but they both have there own family to take care of and I don’t want to become a burden to them
any advice would be appreciated
Hi Slush12 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
Waiting for tests to find out if you have cancer can be a very stressful time and it's natural that you would have liked your partner to support you, especially as you supported him over many years previously.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you also join and post in the cervical cancer group as this will give you the opportunity to connect directly with others who have been where you are now. I know it's not the same as having someone physically with you but the ladies there will do all they can to support you.
If you would like to do this, just click on the link I've created which will take you directly there. You can then join and start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
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