Hardest time

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Hiya, I was with my partner just 17 months & 13 of them he spent in hospital fighting cancer. Life is so cruel, he went into hospital with “ constipation” so we thought a couple of days and he wou be home again…. I’m sad to say they found bowel cancer which led to him having a colostomy …. Then he had stomach cancer & 3/4 of his stomache removed… from there the cancer spread like wildfire. had it in his lungs, spine, neck and brain … the cancer was so advanced all they could do was keep him comfortable and drain fluid from his head, behind his eyes. He ended up blind & in total agony I’m sorry to say he passed away last Thursday. This was a blessing for him but I’m finding it so hard as we had a wedding planned and were buying a house together… Now all I have is memories Life can be so cruel but I know he would have wanted me to be strong . Please everyone make every minute count with your loved one xxxx

Thehighlander over 2 years ago

Scarytimes , I am so so sorry to read about your partner, my sincere condolences.

This is such a challenging time for you and any help and support you can get will help you navigate this difficult time.

Could I suggest that you join and post in our dedicated Bereaved spouses and partners support group, this is a safe place to talk with others who know this journey well.

The Macmillan Support Line is open from 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 where you can talk with someone about specific practical information, get emotional support, financial guidance or just connect with a listening ear.

Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and do proved specialist bereavement support.

((hugs))

Mike (Thehighlander)

It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

My cancer story

Alottment lover over 2 years ago

Hi scarytimes, I'm sending you a huge hug and love, you definitely need plenty right now hon. I'm sorry to hear about your partner and the terrible time you've both had the last 13 months. My condolences to you xxxxxxx

It looks like the Highlander has given you some solid advice already and I've nothing to add there but my heart just wanted to reach out to you in your pain.

I hope you've friends and family who can support you now, keep remembering to be kind to yourself in the midst of all your pain.

Scarytimes over 2 years ago in reply to Thehighlander

Thankyou Highlander … I’m just in a bit of a tizzy atm as his brother is getting angry with me as my partner left me everything in his will ~ I’ve blocked his txts but things are still to raw to fight with anyone plus I dont want to . i miss him so much but i have my memories and letters etc and my love for bim will be eternal.

i will join yje bereavment group soon as i feel sttong enough .

Thankyou xx

Scarytimes over 2 years ago in reply to Alottment lover

Thankyou Allotment lover …. People are been so lovely but I just feel so empty . I know my partner is in a better place & out of pain which is a blessing but I miss him so so much . We had so many plans for our future . Anyway I’m tearful again so will sign off . Thankyou for your kindness and love ️

Scary xxx