Right now I have just graduated and have moved back to my parents home. I also live with an older sister who returned from Japan in 2020. My oldest sister lives 2 hours away from home.
My Dad has prostate cancer
He was diagnosed mid-may, before we went to the degree exhibition. I knew about the tests and scans, when I visited home but don't remember being told exactly what they were for.
He was diagnosed mid-may, before we went to the degree exhibition. After that my parents went home and I was living in a flat with my flatmate at the time.
I knew from when I was in college, my aunt lived with us when she was dyeing of a brain tumour I could look really angry. So I told my flatmate and couldn't stop crying.
He's on hormone therapy and having the menopause symptoms which is expected. Now we're preparing for his treatment to get rid of it. Like he's very aware of needing to drink 2/2.5L of non-caffinated fluids at least 3 days before the next appointment.
I remember during the summer when he went to the doctors for a check up on the cancer and discussing what happens in terms of treatment. I got very emotional on that day, even when telling myself it's going to be ok.
I find it difficult to be around my sister, at home, when I'm emotional about it. She was away when our aunt was home with cancer. She can be cold and insincere.
I'm trying to get a job, in something to do with my degree, but I'm really struggling with talking in interviews and I know I can still talk when nervous, but this is another level. I'm struggling with energy and enthusiasm in things I think are really fun to do if I just did them.
After my aunt died, I felt more angry with low self esteem until I sorted myself out and ploughed through into uni (I felt numb for a year when I did that). So maybe I'll have that again when we get the all clear with dad, because trying to plough through to getting a job offer isn't working right now.
Hi Serz and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to read that your dad has been diagnosed with prostate cancer and that you lost your aunt to brain cancer. It's very understandable why you'd be feeling as you do right now, and you might find these hints and tips from Macmillan on your feelings when someone has cancer helpful to look through.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you also join and post in the family and friends group which is a safe and supportive place to share your feelings and get support from others who have a loved one living with cancer.
You might also like to join the prostate cancer group, which is a great place to ask questions and share experiences with others who have prostate cancer, and also the bereaved family and friends group which would give you the opportunity of talking through your feelings around your aunt's death with others who have lost a loved one to cancer.
To join any or all of these groups just click on the links I've created which will take you directly there. You can then join and start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your dad's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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