my husband was diagnosed with gastrointestinal cancer in February and we have been told there is no cure He has just had 5 rounds of radiotherapy to try to shrink the tumour. It completely wiped him out and he couldn’t swallow and ate practically nothing for for three weeks. However he is feeling better now and eating more and swelling is easier. But he has no energy at all. He was concerned that the side effects of the radiotherapy was really the cancer causing the problem.
I had breast cancer diagnosed in July and had a mastectomy and was lucky as I was told that they had got rid off all the cancer and apart from Hot Flushes ( really hot) a side effect of the hormone therapy I am having. I am not alone I have a wonderful daughter who lives near and does everything she can, and more , to help and a wonderful son who lives the other side of the country. He wanted to come to see us but my husband does not want the family to see him so weak and helpless. He knows my daughter helps me and he is grateful for it.
I just wanted to put this down and wondered if anyone else is experiencing such a time. I am not depressed but find myself anxious a lot when I see my husband so weak. He has always been a very positive man and strong willed. He took control of all of our problems and seemed to make things better and easier. We both feel this situation hard.
Hi Coral
It must be incredibly difficult with both you and your husband having cancer.
As you know, the online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the carers only group which is a great place to get support from others who have a loved one living with cancer. Although you might not find anyone there who has cancer at the same time as their partner/friend you will find a lot of support.
If you'd like to join just click on the link I've created and then start a new post in the same way as you did here. You can also join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'
When you feel up to it, it would be great if you could pop something about both you and your husband's diagnoses and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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