My mother was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma about a month ago, the doctors told her the good news was that it was localized so she could go through surgery. About a week later we find out that the cancer had spread to her lungs and liver and there was no surgery possible. The doctors say that what they are trying to do now is contain the cancer with the chemo as it's such an agressive cancer wich to me means there is no remission possible. I can't imagine my dad living alone after being every single day with that woman for 45 years, he doesn't know how to live by himself and i'm absolutely heartbroken for him and don't know what to do. All those thoughts sunk in me a few days ago and since then, ive not been able to function properly. I can't sleep, or eat, or work, my life feels completly pointless right now and i can't seem to accept death in general. It's wearing me out and all i can do to feel relaxed is sleep all the time to try to ignore these thoughts. It has gotten so bad that i've been thinking of going to the hospital so they can just give me something to take and relax.
I've had anxiety and depression problems in the past that were never addressed and that i'm realizing now have never gotten that much better but i was able to function and mask it for a few years, and it seems with this news now, it all has come back in full force.
I made a psychiatrist appointment but i was able to only book it for the 26th of October and i feel like i need help at this moment to be able to deal with the whole process, or i will just let myself go down mentally.
Hi angie95 and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friends and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link(s) I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing supporting all the family and you will get support on a walk in bases.
Please do get back to me if you need further help.
All the very best.
