My dad recently passed. He was diagnosed in hospital with lung cancer in March. He didn’t want treatment. A week after his diagnosis I broke my ankle really badly and was mom-weight bearing. So he was discharged to a nursing home near me. He was there for 6 weeks but he was really well, not in any pain and was independent. He hated being in the home but he didn’t want to go back to his house, so he came to live with me and my husband.
again he was really well and independent so I just let him do his own thing and didn’t interfere with his routines like sorting his tablets. I carried on working and doing my own thing too.
but a few weeks ago he started to struggle more with various things like swallowing so he went in to a hospice on a Saturday morning to “get on top of his symptoms” but early the Monday morning I got a phone calll and went straight to the hospice. Within 10 minutes he passed away.
there’s so much I feel guilty about and I make as him so much. I don’t know how to get through it.
please please can anyone help?
Hi Charlie99
I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I know it's easy for me to say but you shouldn't feel guilty. You did everything you could do to make his life as comfortable as possible.
There is a bereaved family and friends forum that you can join to get support from others you have lost a family member or loved one to cancer. This is the link: Bereaved family and friends forum .
Best wishes
Daisy53
