My mum had breast cancer in 2019 and recovered in 2020, two years on she got a liver cancer diagnosis which she got in early June. I'm 22 I just finished uni, my mum is a single parent, when I came back home a week later she has her first chemo session after diagnosis. We all noticed she was abnormally fatigued even for someone going through chemo and one day I called emergency services, took her into emergency daycare and she lost all faculties and lots of blood. Spent every day at the hospital with her for two weeks with my 18 year old sister and grandma, turns out the cancer spread to her spine and brain, she is at home now and we are caring for her but she has days left. I'm in admin mode now sorting out everything legal etc but i also have a 17 year old brother who's not coping well. No-one I know has been through this or seen this so just thought I'd come on here to ask what to expect in these last days and after them, and what to do, how to possibly cope.
Hi CRJ1927 and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis and prognosis. A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone in a journey like this you may also benefit from joining our general Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others in the same position.
If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link I have created above. Then once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
Give me a shout if you need further help.
Best regards.
