So my dad has stage 4 lung cancer, adrenal and brain mets, he’s currently in the hospital with respiratory issues (lungs continue to fill with fluid) he’s waiting on a bed at another hospital to recieve a chest drain permanently, but he’s becoming really rude towards people visiting him and really nasty on a few occasions it’s been me that’s took the brunt of it and I’ve brushed it off, I live with 7 boys I’m used to the “banter” but tonight I feel really overwhelmed, he received a heart scan and a X-ray this morning and i was asking what they were for he said .. my lungs obviously, I asked what was happening now and he stared me right in the eyes and shouted “THERE F**KED WHAT ELSE DO YOU THINK”, taken back a little I said yes I know this but is there any change that’s what I’m asking, he literally put his hand up for me to stop talking and that was the end of that, we sat in silence for about 10 mins and then he asked what I had for dinner (like none of that had even happened) my dad has never been a meany he’s Normally so calm and laidback never have I ever in 32 years had any of my parents speak to me like that!
I get he’s scared, angry, frustrated and in pain, possibly still in denial but I’m doing the best I can trying to find out what exactly is going on to be kept in the loop so he’s not going through it all alone.
anyone been in same situation tell me it’s normal for him to be so mean (especially with the brain mets)
x
