Hi Everyone!
Has anyone here had experiences of themselves or a loved one sleeping a lot after cancer surgery a few months down the line? I've been on talking about my husbands bowel cancer but recently he has been sleeping a lot during the day and early evening. I know its been a lot for him to go through-for both of us of course! I've been sharing the disturbing news about a letter we received also about his CT being brought forward etc also. He was on Iron tablets (Ferrous Fumerate) before his operation for anaemia and before his op they stopped them and after he came home he went back on them again but for some reason they have been stopped again. I know this operation has affected him mentally and emotionally also but he's also `old school` and sees it is not a thing men talk about. He doesn't come into bed until the early hours of the morning ( 1 or 2 a.m) so I know this is a factor that could be causing it. Unfortunately he blames me for this because apparently I am a very loud snorer which can be a problem in relationships itself
and it seems this wakes him up and he needs to get up. I've tried lots of things for this but some just don't work even sleeping in seperate rooms but I miss our `comfy bed`
. He very seldom dresses himself during the day either just sitting in PJ bottoms and a T shirt. Even if we got out for some shopping he won't get dressed properly because he knows he won't be getting out the car and I will go in and get what we need so just goes with what he has on. Before he had his stoma op I had to go into the supermarket to get the shopping because he was always worried he would `need to go` urgently so always stayed in the car and was pleased when finished his treatment he could actually get out and come round the supermarket with me little things like that but it seems he reverted back to sitting in the car. Washing is a bit of a chore too. I nag him to have showers but are told in no uncertain terms where to go. I have had a handrail put up in the shower for him but its always at the back of his mind he's going to fall and will just stand at the sink and do a `top n tail` wash but feel he's not washing himself properly doing that. He was trying at the beginning to go out for a walk but of course being in Scotland (Glasgow) sometimes our weather is very unpredictable and its wet n windy some days so the walking exercises have stopped also. Could this be a wee bit of depression setting in. Thanks.
PattyK
