Sex and chemo

Hi Kevin and welcome to the Online Community. I'm from the womb group and have recently finished chemo and I'd have to be honest the last thing on my mind would probably have been sex. Mind you I'm long past menopause and sex is a distant memory with hubby having had both his hips replaced LOL - sorry my dark sense of humour!

I do know that mentally going through a cancer diagnosis and having chemotherapy thinking about cancer takes over every waking moment. Have you been able to talk to your wife?

I have read elsewhere that during chemo a condom should be used and kissing isn't advisable.

It might be a good idea if you join the breast-cancer-forum and ask your question there. Then you may get a perspective from both ladies and men. Just click on the link I've provided and join then copy and paste your post in a new thread.

I'm pleased to see you want as normal a life as possible during this hard time and you are so supportive. I wish your wife well in her treatment.

Sending hugs, b xx

Hi 

when I was first diagnosed, one of the first things my oncologist asked me was about my relationship status- they type of chemotherapy i have an be transferred through body fluids so it might be worth you both getting advice on what is safe. That might help your wife relax and you both enjoy intimacy again 

I too have recently seen this post and was upset by the comments posted by the oublic, such as, why would you want too have sex when going through chemo. 

Well after separating with my ex husband 2 years ago and leaving an abusive relationship I finally found someone just as I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. I've given him enough opportunity to run but he assures me he doesn't want to and he wants to be with me through this. I have to admit we have had intercourse once and we used a condom as advised by my bcn. I have a high sex drive which has taken a little dent but its still there and he makes me feel incredible, sex is only natural so enjoy it of both parties want too.