Husband has terminal cancer

FormerMember over 3 years ago

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My husband was diagnosed with colon cancer in January 2021. He had chemo therapy and radio therapy. He recently started chemo again every 2 weeks but it made him so poorly they have decided to stop it. We have now been told he's to weak as he's not eaten much for 3 weeks and nothing at all in the last 4 days. So there's nothing more they can do He's going into a hospice tomorrow.

We have 3 children aged 14, 11 and 6 how do I tell them their dad is dying? I've never felt so alone and so scared.

FormerMember over 3 years ago

Hi Deyne, I went through exactly the same 19 years ago when my husband was in his mid forties and his 13 yr old daughter was living with us. He had colon cancer too, and chemo but it ended up being terminal. It is scary but you have to keep going for the children. I still miss him every day but eventually remarried even though I felt part of me had died with him. Sadly, my next husband died last month of pancreatic cancer within 8 weeks of diagnosis and, like you, I feel alone and scared but I’m trying to tell myself that both husbands would want me to keep going, they both fought so hard to live. Children are amazing, and of course, the knowledge that their dad is dying will be devastating for them but I found that they are far more resilient than we are. I really feel for you, but you CAN get through this. One step, one day at a time. Sending love xxx