My sister, is my best friend. She was diagnosed in April 2012 with breast cancer. She has fought, and continues to do so.
10 years on, she has secondary lung, kidney, liver and also 3mm head met which had a 30 min blast of radio.
She tends to keep her cards close to her chest, and we aren't always sure that she is telling us the full story, and I respect that - but its so difficult to gauge what's going on.
Over the last week, she hasn't been eating or drinking. She was put on hormone treatment as her consultant said that continuing with oral chemo is too much on her body. They have also reduced her steroid dosage. She is sleeping most of the time and isn't needing oramorph like she used to. Macmillan were called today and now we are waiting for hospital transport to come and collect her as there is a bed waiting for her at our local hospital.
Is this the start of the end? I don't know, but I'm absolutely petrified and she has a 7 year old and 17 year old that needs support as well as the rest of the family. Wondering how on earth we get through this?
Hi and a warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm sorry to hear about your sister's diagnosis and I know how hard a cancer diagnosis is on the whole family.
As the community is divided up into different support groups can I suggest that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can discuss your emotions as well as practical issues.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Sending a virtual (((hug)))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Thank you, my sister actually passed away this afternoon 
Emily22, I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds as if it was quite sudden at the end, that must have been a shock for you all.
I hope it was peaceful and pain free for your sister hon.
I imagine as you were so close to your sister you are probably close to her two children as well. They will certainly need your love and support now. You will "get through" because you can and because you have too. Remember there are many things we do in grief that are normal.
Just being together now and being there for each other is the best thing to do. No right or wrong way to grieve, all of you need to do it.
Love and big hugs to you Emily xx
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I'm so sorry to read this and my heart goes out to you.
There is a bereaved family and friends group where you can give and receive support from others who have lost someone to cancer. If you'd like to join it clicking on the link will take you over there.
Sending a virtual (((hug)))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
