Hi, I’m currently providing end of life care, at home, to my dad (and my best friend). I know he hadn’t got long left, 2 days at most. He’s pretty much unresponsive, I just want to reassure him, make him comfy and safe but I don’t know how to. I’ve never felt so alone. Any advice would be gratefully received. Thank you
Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your dad and the challenges you are dealing with
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Hi Lee. So sorry for you both.
They say that hearing is the last thing to go so you can’t do better at this stage than to hold his hand and talk to him. I stayed with my mother. I did just that. I told her I would be ok and so would the grandchildren and it was alright to go.
Hugs
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
