Things not to say to someone with cancer?

I was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer with mets to spine in August, one that really gets me is "at least its one of the better cancers to get" really how about swapping places with me.

I’m glad you mentioned that Keith, When I first got my diagnosis of endometrial cancer, a retired GP friend was one of the first people I told, and he literally said to me “well if you’re going to get cancer, that’s the one to get”. He looked a bit awkward afterwards so I kind of erred on the side of thinking that he realised afterwards how off it sounded. But it stuck in my mind and I did and do find it crass. 

Hi Marmite. I have a very good friend and she keeps telling me that I'm doing so well and being so strong. Like many others I shed tears and have dark moments. I am always cheerful to people on the phone because it cheers me up. What would they think if I was always dumb and downcast!

My GP and the hysteroscopy consultant both said the same thing. It's no consolation though, is it?

Good point Angie. We don't want people to avoid us, so we remain upbeat in public. It's OK to get down sometimes - I just don't like it!

My mum was told she was terminal a month ago and has a few months left after battling cancer since 2018,

1 thing said to me... "your lucky you have a few months with her"

I'm not sure lucky is the word I would use, expecially seeing my mum screaming in pain at times and crying saying she can't go on anymore...

Eye roll!.. I know people try to be supportive and if you've not been in the same situation it's hard... but still...

I'm sorry you have to see your Mum go through this. Have you talked to your doctor/nurse about reviewing her pain management? All the best x