Am feeling quite unloved and not cherished at the moment. It’s my 54th birthday on Wednesday and I’ve had to organise my birthday dinner and buy my own birthday present. I did get reimbursed but there was no “what would you like, would you like to go for a quiet meal?” Apparently this year “has been a bit different”. All the more reason to live life. He even forgot it was my mid treatment PET scan today and I can’t go and feed the dogs as I’m radioactive so they will need to wait until he’s home.
I encourage my fiancé to tell me how he feels and if he can’t do that, to reach out to friends or support from Lymphoma Action or MacMillans but he “doesn’t need to talk to anyone”.
Friends and family have all been making me feel very special but the one person who I need to really value me doesn’t seem to want to make the effort. We never spend quality time together these days - even a trip
out with the dogs for a walk by the beach. He often works 7 days a week then the Sky Sports goes on. Not only do I have to concern myself with my treatment but I’m worried about our relationship too.
Any advice on how to tactfully broach the subject gratefully received. Thanks and sorry for long post
Hi
Sorry to read your story; not a long post at all and it does sound very difficult for you.
I wonder if it might help you to look at Your feelings when someone has cancer, as it might help to give some insight in to what might be going on with him, For my wife and myself her cancer has if anything brought us closer together but it has not been without some bumps in the road.
I found I needed help before Janice and she found different help to me but now we have managed to get our heads in a space where we live with cancer rather than anything else. Still more likely to die in a road traffic accident than anything else - especially with my driving!
Hope the scan went well - it is fun being told what you cannot do afterwards due to the radiation.
<<hugs>>
Steve
