My mum

Hi ,

So sorry that your mum's cancer has re-occured and that you are feeling so down. Please remember there are lots of treatments out there  and this is not an immediate death sentence. My cancer re-occured after 13 years, and I am still here 4 years after the second diagnosis and still active and generally well despite being on treatment. The timing is cruel, with you having moved away, but that doesnt mean you are out of contact and you can offer support by phone etc. Your mum is going to want you to be getting along with your life and not just worrying about her. Ask her about the best ways you can support her. You should join the friends and carers forum as well, so others who are supporting someone can give you support too. I hope your mum has other support and can enjoy time with you when you are able to see her in person.And you should seek whatever support you need to - talk to people honestly and use the university mental health services too.

xx

Hey,

I really, really appreciate your reply. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve also suffered with cancer but I’m glad you’re doing well now. There is finally a plan in place in regards to my mum’s treatment with her starting chemotherapy next week, I’ve been talking to her everyday and have been trying to support her the best I can without being there physically. Ive also taken your advice and emailed my personal tutor about the situation and have joined the friends and carers forum. Thank you so much for your help, it means a lot to speak to someone about it xx

Glad it helped, and pleased to hear your mum has been given a treatment plan.

You are doing what you can and I am glad you have been seeking support on here and elsewhere. Asking for help is a sign of strength , so keep on doing it.xx