Hi I am so sorry to hear this but not surprised, it seems to happen. Don't be too hard on your friends and family though as it's probably because they feel awkward and don't know what to say.
If they act happy and talk about what's going on in their lives they will feel guilty and like they are rubbing salt in your would. If they talk about your cancer they will worry about upsetting you and making things worse. So they stay away so they don't have to say anything and the more time that passes the harder it gets.
I can easily see myself being one of the people that stay away for the reasons above. It was me that got cancer though and I chose not to tell anyone. Only my husband knew and one friend out of necessity as my husband was abroad. I told my sons the night before surgery to minimise their worry and that's it I didn't tell anyone else.
Since being cancer free I've told 3 other friends (2 of which also had breast cancer) and to this day my mother, brother and my whole side of the family still don't know I had cancer.
What some people find is that although close friends fall away friends you were not that close to surprise you and end up being their for you so maybe also tell people you were not particularly close to if you are feeling alone and they might surprise you.
Otherwise this website is great for connecting with ladies going through the same thing.
Thank you very much . I just regretted broadcasting my self to parents siblings about this now . Well I decide to stop telling people I meet physically . It has bring me pain instead of comfort .
Don't regret it as it was clearly what you needed at the time. It what almost everyone does, I've only come across two others who have kept it to themselves.
Maybe look for local support groups that meet in your area so you can make new friends who are going through the same as you. Have a look HERE
Depending on how you feel and whether you think it will make the situation worse or not talk to your family and friends and tell them how you are feeling. Try not to accuse or judge but perhaps if you make the first move and discuss their distant behaviour and ask them what is making them uncomfortable it might help.
Always only do what you feel is best for you as you are going through more than enough at the moment.
You can also call MacMillan on 0808 808 00 00 7 days a week 8am-8pm. - I'm sure they come across this a lot and might offer you better advice.
